I have a close family member who is deeply knowledgeable (lawyers, hee!) about employment law as far as cases of abuse go. That combined with my personal studies of ethics and philosophy as from where I base my arguments. In a court of law, I have been told, the alledge victim could stand before the jury and say, 'I was abused/harrassed/etc' and the alledged perpetraitor could say, 'I didn't abuse/harrass/etc. them' and the jury would need to decide as 'reasonable people' (legal term) if abuse took place or not. Her opinion and my opinion (as reasonable people) is that abuse did not take place in the situation between Wilson and Grace. It would not stand up in a court of law.

I don't think it necessarily excuses Wilson's behavior - it was obviously bad judgment - but as for it was abuse or if cases like this are always necessarily abuse, my answer in a resounding 'no!' It is purely circumstantial.